Example

This Absolut ad is a great example of postmodern with kitsch, the idea of taking back kitsch to be something enjoyed rather than shunned. The ideas I had for the centerpieces are actually very close to this!

This Is The Cake I Want!

Meditations On Theme

So when I was going through ideas in my head, the color schemes of Indian weddings and Dia De Los Muertos came up. I like the idea of having vibrant colors at the wedding and no pastels. But I wanted a little more pliable theme with room for me to get creative and keep it personal. We both like the idea of post-modern deconstruction.

Here is a link I like and identify with. I prefer deconstruction as the idea of divorcing automatic meanings from events. I believe we can make our own meaning, in a reasonable, case by case manner. I further believe that it is necessary to our humanity and that it is our duty to create our own meanings with events we experience.

The recycled arts and crafts I do is an example of the literal, physical deconstructionism that I enjoy. I want those to be prominent in the wedding decor - from the centerpieces to my dress, which is my mom's old wedding dress, cut up, dyed, and resewed to fit me.

So I decided I want a post-modernist, deconstructionist, whimsical, hipster wedding. I'm talking moustaches, swallows, octopuses, bicycles, suspenders, anything vintage, kitschy, artifacts of our lives worked into the decorations.

The idea of blurring the lines between ritual, ceremony, and performance is very exciting. The wedding will have an entirely different structural feel than most weddings, and we haven't even finalized what the ceremony/performance/ritual will be. But it will be some blending of those two!

Casual Engagement Party

Thanks to everyone who could make it to our casual engagement party, we posted it on facebook only two days ago, so it was small :) Here's some pictures of Whitney and Ethan dancing!

How We Met

We met through our mutual friend, Trevor. Trevor was one of Brett's childhood friends and I dated Trevor for 3 and a half years, but had never met Brett. We met sometime in the summer of 2010, while I would drop off Trevor to the Hatch house to play bloodbowl. The first thing Brett remembers about me is a hilarious misimpression: he saw smoke in the little white egg timer car and the arm with the tattoo. He abstracted in his head that I was a tattooed smoker!

We met more formally at Sneha's Indian Restaurant in Palo Alto. Trevor and I were no longer dating and our friendship works well. He had been bugging me to meet his childhood friend, Brett. He said I would like him best out of all his friends and that we'd be perfect together. I didn't really like the idea of being set-up, so I ignored Trevor for a while. One night I decided it would be fun to go to an indian restaurant in a carpool and meet new people.

Trevor and I drove to meet the Hatches in Scotts Valley. I shook hands with Ethan, Brett, and James and then we all piled in their mom's van and went. I don't remember much of Brett that night; I was still on the solitary side at the time, before my acting-class-epiphany summer. After that we met sparingly until I started dating someone elseand incidentally saw Brett at the Ugly Mug one day. For the first time I got the vibe that he viewed me separately from Trevor, like I wasn't just that friend of Trevor'. He remembered my name was Tatiana.